Do you feel the need to throw yourself at your boyfriend? Are your actions becoming erratic? Does everything you do push your ex boyfriend farther away? Well when you have been deeply in love with a man and you are suddenly put out to dry your actions can suddenly resemble those of someone locked up in an institution. Everywhere you go you see loving couples. Your heart is breaking and your mind is screaming “What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back”? Take a break from the turmoil for a moment and follow some friendly advice that will greatly increase your chances of getting your ex boyfriend back.

The first thing to realize is that your emotions are quite normal. Obviously you care a great deal about this guy or else you wouldn’t be reading an article about how to get your ex boyfriend back.

However if you are wearing your emotions on your sleeve and feeling needy toward your ex it is only human nature that your ex boyfriend is going to push farther away. Think about the times in your life when someone has smothered you with attention – not showered you but smothered you. Big difference between the two.

The fact of the matter is no one likes to be dripping wet with someone who is so needy. Human nature steps in and pushes away what you so desire. Fighting against the laws of human nature will not get you what you want; namely to have your arms wrapped around your ex boyfriend and have everything back the way things were.

So you may be asking yourself “what then…what can I do to get my ex boyfriend back”? A better question may be “what can I stop doing to get my ex boyfriend back”? Are you text messaging him 50 times a day? Are you bombarding him with emails and phone calls. Are you attempting to make late night booty calls?Are you crying and pleading with him trying to make him feel sorry for you?

If so, this is very normal behavior for someone who has just had their heart put through a blender. Your heart cries out for your ex boyfriend, something it can not have. However if you are going to have a chance of getting your ex boyfriend back these actions are going to have to stop. I mean right now before it is too late!

Ok, so now we know what not to do. What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back? Go down this path instead.

You are going to have to start making human nature work for you and not against you – Reverse course. Your heart will fight you but start by taking a break from what has not worked. No more calls (booty calls included), text messaging or emails. If you have to see him, such as in class or work, be cordial but don’t talk to him for any length of time. Ideally though there should be no communication between the two of you.

Use the extra time to work on YOU. The focus should be on YOU. It should be all about loving YOU. Workout like a wild woman, read a great book you have been putting off, write about how you are feeling (don’t be tempted to email him what you wrote), go somewhere that you have never been before.

If you are a drinker stop drinking for awhile (just the opposite of what most people do). No doubt this will be a challenging time for you, but it will pay off no matter what happens between you and your ex boyfriend.

This is now where the laws of human nature start to work in your favor. You are no longer accessible to your ex boy friend. Your ex will start to wonder what has happened to you. It is human nature to be curious about where you have suddenly gone and what you have been doing. After all, this is the woman that had been pursuing him.

Now you become a bit mysterious. You are no longer coming on to him and human nature begins to flip around. You ex now is in a position to even start missing you. This of course could never be possible with your old smother him to death plan.

So what can you do to get your ex boyfriend back? Now you should be able to answer that question a whole lot better.

The idea behind this strategy is to work with human nature, not against it. The key to repairing a breakup is not to come across as desperate and needy. Take a breath, create some much needed space between you and your ex boyfriend. Change the focus over to yourself. Do things for yourself that empower you. Love yourself.

Before you know it human nature will swing the other way. When your ex boyfriend comes knocking make sure to not welcome him with open arms….yet. This would be a good time to play a little hard to get. Not rude or anything but not easy either. Take it slow and ease back into your relationship.

Before you know it the day will come when one of your girlfriend’s comes crying up to you asking “What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back?” Just remember to tell her to work with human nature, not against it.




By: Robert R. Cook