You are a human magnet and everyone wants to be your friend and be involved with you. Has this ever happened to you? Whether you know about it or not, you have been exhibiting the law of attraction in situations like this. Attraction is making other people like you and want to be with you, if not emulate you.
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Talking about the Law of Attraction is one thing. Learning how to operate and function consciously with the Law of Attraction in mind is another. There are many tools and techniques that both conscious and unconscious Law of Attraction practitioners do that help to positively activate it in their lives for the good. However, most of us conversely activate the dual component of the Law of Attraction almost instantly and we don’t even realize that it is virtually nullifying the very thing that we desire and delivering more of what we’re trying to avoid. The law that considers this effect is the Law of Resistance.
This law is simply another way of looking at the Law of Attraction in action. The Law of Resistance takes into account pushing against something. An example of a statement that points to this law is, “I’m fighting against the war on terror.” Another example is, “I am anti-abortion.” Most often though, the Law of Resistance is activated simultaneously with the Law of Attraction when we use contractions like ‘don’t', ‘won’t', ‘can’t', ‘shouldn’t', or ‘wouldn’t.’ What usually follows the contraction is the subject of our resistance. If you’re so intently focusing on being against poverty, by making statements like, “I can’t beat the system.” The system is the focus of your resistance, and the Law of Attraction doesn’t respond to the “can’t” part…only the emotions connected to the subject of your resistance (the system). Constantly focusing on the system and what hindrances you experience because of it, make it persist longer in your life.
Most of us do this unconsciously. We focus so much on what we don’t want and what we don’t like, that we never really take the time to concentrate long and often enough on what we do want and do like. This is where perception plays a large role in the outcomes that people have. We notice cases everyday where a person’s attitude dictates the rest of their life. If they operate with a negative disposition most often, they are presented with more negative situations and circumstances. The same is true for someone who notices or cares to recognize the positive in all situations and the desired outcomes. They seem to have more “blessings” and lucky breaks. Self-perception plays a major role in all of this. When you feel empowered, you’re more likely to have a loftier stance. When you feel disempowered, many people begin to identify and wear “helplessness” and blame as a badge of honor. Those who change, do so consciously and with faith.
Michael Losier, in his book The Law of Attraction, gives a very useful tool for changing your perception around statements that activate the Law of Resistance. He says to make two columns: one that lists everything that you don’t like or don’t want. The other column is where you would write a statement that reframes the resistance-filled statement with a statement that contains your actual desire. For example, the left column would contain a statement like this: “I don’t want to have to keep worrying about my bills.” The right column would read: “I am financially free. I always have more than enough to live with and give.”
Understanding that the Law of Resistance will rear its head almost instantly when working with the Law of Attraction can help people pinpoint the very thoughts that are activating this law and causing what they want to take longer to manifest. It takes willingness and belief to make thinking like this a habit. It’s a life-long commitment to positive perception, having the understanding that the negative helps to maintain balance and provide contrast.
By: Megan Jenifer
When newcomer “wife” comes to stay in the new house with husband who is already with other male members, becomes favorable atmosphere for her. Tendency of males to attract females facilitates her to take advantage to establish own atmosphere that matches her identity. This facilitates her to run the home as she wants. On the other hand, if there is already an adult female member (mainly mother-in-law) who controlled the house, turn out to be problems for her and her. Her survival is by surrendering to adjust into the existing environment or fight to gain control to establish own environment. It is a war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, most popular of any war. It is egoistic war to establish own superiority.
A home adorned by woman is her entity. Her own values are involved in making a home that reflects her qualities. Each house interior is different from other is because her deep involvement to decorate that suits her taste. We can observe in a house purchased or hired, woman takes special interest and involve her feeling to decorate and arrange interiors that makes her comfortable. Woman modifies her house to suit her taste is the environment she makes that suits her.
The mother who is already in control of her house would not easily leave, is the same case as of politicians who hates to leave legislation membership or seat whatever we may call. This is her house as she has been involved to nurture the house since the beginning. Any challenge is the challenge to her emotions, sense of worth, identity, fondness and finally her control for own security. Thus, she would never wish newcomer to have control on what she amassed for long-long time. This is the psychological behavior with every individual/ any life form. Who creates own territory by involving sentimentally and marks psychologically or physically to declare. Depends how species behave as human declare with flags and animals with other methods. Declaring territory is the sense of security. Similarly, mother too has marked her territory and would resist to any challenge.
A son for the mother is the outgrowth of her efforts and emotional involvement. Mainly when she has one son, she expects her son to become security for the family and the old age. Honestly, no aged man or woman would wish to go to old age houses for rest of the life as long as the son is alive. Differences of new generations, old generations, and psychological war between in-laws force to leave the house.
When she hands over her son to a new woman, she is cautious that her influence on the son is not disconnected. Her influence on him is the sense of security as he obeys, cares, and respects are his attachment. The new woman (WIFE) cannot tolerate because her sense of security expects 100% involvement from her husband. Wife needs him for her and children’s safety, security, comfort and sensual attachment. The diversion of her husband’s attention would minimize her expected desires. Therefore, she declares a war against her mother-in-law aggressively to thwart the weakening realm. However, the outcome depends on how psychologically strong the son/ husband is. How much his attraction or submission to the influence is? How strong the religious influence is? How he handles the situation? Who of two women are more influential is?
99.99 % mothers win over daughter-in-laws in the countries where religious dominance rule. All religious scripts direct the son to follow, respect, care and worship mothers. Therefore, aged are still safe and living with their children. However, in the urban and advanced countries it is the opposite. In such cases, the mothers are psychologically weaker and get defeated to daughter-in-laws.
In most cases, wife’s inclination is towards her own parents above the husband’s parents. She would prefer her mother-father to stay with her provided she wins her husband’s mind to agree. The reason of this is that she lived for long-long time, made her involve and attached emotionally with the parents and mixed up intensely to understand the needs of parents and parents understand her needs subsides only when she bears her own children.
One thing I would wish to stress that even wife loves and has respect for the mother-in-law; only psychological issues disconnect them. It is not any personal conflict rather is the personality conflict. They involve in the conflict to gain/retain the status and claim rights on the son/husband’s attention. So, can retain their say and pull major attention of son/husband towards them.
o Daughter-in-law should also realize that she too would meet her daughter-in-law in her future when she becomes the mother-in-law. On the other hand, mother-in-law should realize the same way.
o Wife need to understand that mother-in-law is now aged. The behavior developed from the very beginning, some times is not easy to change. Thus becomes responsibility to understand the situation and act to drag mother-in-law towards her by affection. This technique is an influence to convince mother-in-law that “I care her more than even her son.”
o Do not hurt any one’s sentiment. Sentiment is the personal value and ego. If you hurt, you become enemy. Besides, putting your own values in front of her, listen to her too and tell to agree which ever is best. Forcing opinions and values is a root to clash.
o It is a conflict between the new and old generation. Thinking and behavior differ generation to generation. Present generation is more open, free, and demanding than the old. Mother-in-law need to know it is not her era.
o Opinion and ideological differences lead to misunderstanding.
o Psychological feelings and horrifying stories about mother-in-law create misunderstanding.
o Besides, understanding each other’s stand and responsibilities should work to eliminate feeling of insecurity.
o Egoistic approach is the root cause that I am the one who is responsible for him. Now he is an adult man can take care himself and your both.
o Exchange the affection, views, chat, good moments of your life, gifts etc to get closer.
Two different identities of different ideologies fight each other to gain control on one man. These two beloved women crush this man in their skirmishes. They do not realize the affect on the man they are fighting-for. In most cases, mother gets defeated in this episode and ends up rest of her life in the old age homes. If wife looses the war, she ends up in marriage failure. Finally, who is the looser?
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By: Sadashivan Nair